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  LESSONS THAT KENYAN COUPLES CAN LEARN FROM THE PARENTS OF SINCERELY DAISY.         “Spoiler alert” “Sincerely Daisy,” is the third movie to make a premier on Netflix.  This show is a coming of age story about a girl who is transitioning from high school to university and how her journey for self-discovery unfolds.  This interesting tale was one I enjoyed but the two who in my case stole the show were Daisy’s parents. The duo baba Daisy (Sam Psenjen) and mama Daisy (Mbeki Mwalimu) onscreen chemistry was off the roof.  What fascinated me about the two characters was how the writer creatively crafted the two characters who are dynamic and different but were perfect for each other. They are unlike most conventional couples/parents in Kenya.  Firstly, their open display of affection was something unique I don’t mean nonexistence in Kenya I just mean not common. The opening and the ending of the movie shows the couple lovingly wrapped...

 SAY WHAAT? "I am sorry I did not get that,could you repeat it ?" In the year I spent abroad,I heard this statement about twice  everyday. At first I did not mind repeating and repeating  over again what I had said to make things clearer . I had to be the one saying things wrong .English is after all a second language to me, surrounded by native speakers, I had to try extra hard to make myself understood.  I was wrong .I  came to the realization that, I was just speaking their language the only way I knew how and  I was not going to apologize for that. In Kenya we can quickly tell where someone comes from from the way they speak. Over the years it has become quite clear that there is a 'right' way to speak.Failure to learn this way results in ridicule. All the comedy shows ridicule the various communities and how they speak. Its all in good fun until we realize that we are creating more division.We have quickly moved on to giving our children not just one o...

 STRONG GIRL SYNDROME Perfect hair,right outfit ,quiet,polite and oh yeah,the most important thing an abundance of smiles.Research conducted shows that,a majority of girls are encouraged from a young age to measure their worth based on how well they accomplish their tasks.Thinking back,how many times did we hear the phrase " be a good girl".While there is nothing wrong with getting good grades,smiling  or being well behaved,research has shown that a majority of girls grow up to be people pleasers.They stay in jobs because they have to,they don't speak up when they need to because they believe they shouldn't.If we have learned  anything about being a woman  in this century,it's that we have to stand out and speak up.We need to be strong girls . Strong girls know to set goals and achieve them.Nothing good comes without a fight.Nothing is out of bounds.Boxer,teacher,race car driver,model ,artist,doctor nothing is impossible.Remember shortcuts come at a price.Achievem...

  Can you forgive your partner who cheated? I read this interesting article in the standard media, how Infidelity is the fastest growing business in Kenya. Currently with all the news circulating of celebs and prominent people caught cheating it has caused a bit of stir and controversies.  Last weekend I was out with some of my girlfriends through our random discussions we started discussing about cheating. It turned out to be a very heated debate where one friend said they can never forgive a spouse who cheated on her because the trust is already gone. My other friend said she will forgive the spouse if they promise not to repeat again. This banter went on and on so we had to agree to disagree. This got me thinking can cheating be  considered a mistake? And is ending a relationship the final solution? A research states that 30% to 60% of married individuals will engage in Infidelity at some point in their marriage. This is not limited to only men, women also cheat . Rela...

  Things you should stop saying to hijabis        One evening we were sitted with my two sisters comparing notes on most things people have told us about wearing hijab in work places, in schools and even just among friends.        I will explore some of the questions or comments that most hijabis find insensitive. 1. When a hijabi says I go to the salon stop commenting why do you go when no one sees your hair? We don't make our hair so that someone can see it we do it because we want to look nice for ourselves. 2. When a hijabi complains about a bad hair day! Stop saying but it's covered it's not like it's a problem. Yes we do have bad hair day and just as you feel bad about yours so do we. 3. When a hijabi talks about highlights stop yourself from looking shocked and asking why do you bother when you cover your hair? We "bother" because we want to look good not for other people’s acknowledgement but for our own....

  Mental Health If you ask most people what they understand about mental health most people automatically say it's someone who is crazy. With this understanding the topic of mental health is approached by most people with stigma and a topic that people hardly talk about.  Mental health is important and platforms should be created to encourage people to open up. In Kenya the suicide rate is on the all time high. It's common to see in the media stories about suicide cases because of profound reasons. For instance, a middle aged man recently committed murder because of loan. Even the story of young students committing suicide because of not performing well in there final exams. Even more bizarre is the tale of parents who kill the children and also kill themselves maybe because of a spouse who left them or something. WHO reported in the recent data that 421 suicide cases  330 are men. With high cases of attempted suicide from women. One of the main causes being depression. D...